Thank you those were good interesting articles, lots described me. Too much! But right now i am tangled in my love of R.E.M and my utter gutted devastation at the loss of Taylor Hawkins. I am in lots of groups so it is now constant. Plus the aforementioned brain disability, and i got nothin left! But thanks again
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You’re welcome.
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Once again I deleted my Facebook app. I’ll be back. The “memories” section is maybe the main reason I cannot delete the profile. And a lot of my posts are less for my “friends” and more for me and my family in the documenting/ archiving sense.
Facebook taught me more than any other social media medium that your friends in real life are turned into something else. They are not your actual friends. They are like avatars with bad programming so as to appear like social skill deficient, fickle assholes. On Facebook, with rare exception, we all become billboards who pass by one another.
I used to take it personally when a friend who actively liked most things I posted suddenly stopped or became less engaged. But it’s not the people. It’s the medium. And no no should confuse the two. Comments matter more than likes. Likes mean next to nothing. And I take actual non-Facebook communications way more seriously. We have all gone to a party and had people come up to us and say “I saw your post on your vacation. Looked awesome” and they are the same people who didn’t like or comment on facebook. I used to be mad at them and now I think they have it right.
Just remember your friends are okay. You are okay. Facebook is probably not okay.
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I keep going through a cycle of wanting to join Facebook to reconnect with some old friends, then feeling like it would just be a billboard like you say, then hearing terrible things about it, then having second thoughts, then postponing anything. That’s been happening for about 16 years now, so obviously I’m no expert.
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I still have a Facebook account, but it’s linked to my junk email address and I never log in. It overwhelms me to feel the pressure to seek out each friend’s profile to see what they’re up to, but the algorithm doesn’t show me things from the people I’m most interested in hearing from. My timeline is filled with the right-wing and ultra-Christian memes my cousins’ wives post, and I really don’t like sifting through them to get to things I’m interested in. I really prefer the model where we all meet at the marketplace, so to speak.
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Guys, there are tools within Facebook to stop receiving certain things from certain people, and to start getting more of the stuff that you like. It’s all about setting it up the right way and not overnight.
I’m “friends” with over 400 people. Really couldn’t care less about at least 300. And I only actually follow about 30, while getting bombarded with (good) music from various talented musicians (drummers, bassists, guitarists, pianists), funny memes, cat videos and all sorts of goodies every day, mostly because I keep liking/loving them and the algorhythm learns what I like.
I just chose to ignore everything else, most politics contents included.
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Let’s face it, some just like hanging around corporate social media platforms run buy billionaires.
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I love your use of “buy.”
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I left Facebook in 2014 because I realized that all of my “friends” were people I hadn’t spent time with in years, and my feed was vapid. I learned after a week of Facebook sobriety that I lost nothing. I did ask a friend is 2019 to post an air mattress on Roaring Fork Swap for me. So, I guess one reason to like Facebook is because you can get $50 in cash from a dude that wants your air mattress.
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Sorry, *by, but please yourself. 
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A few days ago, I took a close-up photo of a spider in the woods near my street, and posted it on Facebook. A friend jokingly commented on my photo, “Nope…burn it with fire!!”
I replied, “I say we take off and nuke the entire site from orbit.” (a quote from Aliens)
Another friend replied, “It’s the only way to be sure.”
Facebook banned me for three days for the “nuke the entire site from orbit.” quote, because it apparently violates their community rules regarding threats of violence.
Geez… Seriously?
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All the more reason to dump Facebook!
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It’s ironic that Ethan would create this thread because now, you won’t find him here but you will find him on social media (including Facebook). So much for walking the walk and talking the talk.
really? c’mon ethan!
Yeah @ethank it wouldn’t hurt to drop in once in a while and say hello. You know there is a great bunch of people here however small, we talk R.E.M., music and life stuff. I haven’t come across a phoney yet and they are far less fickle. And yes, you are fickle
Good lord. Ethan restarted Murmurs and is footing the bill for the hosting; it’s really not fair to set expectations for him to post here. This is a lovely corner of the internet, but it’s definitely niche.
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I was a bit unfair, this is free floating honesty, I was expressing my feelings. That said, I revere Ethan and this site, and those who come here more than Zuckerberg or that Musk guy which is why I’m here, and not over there.
I just found it a bit ironic that he relaunched Murmurs and upon doing so made this big anti-Facebook rant as part of the reason for doing so, yet he is rarely, if ever here. I’ve attempted to reach out to him due to technical issues I’ve experienced with the site and have received no response. No one expects him to be here 24/7 but it’s as though he relaunched Murmurs only to abandon it.
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I haven’t had any issues with the site, but it must be frustrating if you have and there’s no one around to fix it. I don’t know what’s happening in Ethan’s world right now; it’s just that the mess going on over at Twitter makes me feel really fond of him and nostalgic for the old days.
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I’m more disturbed by what happened at Twitter than what’s going on now.
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